So I went through a break up last week on Wednesday night after almost 6 months of a long distance relationship. Actually today is Tuesday… so this is exactly a week after my last romance encounter with the dustbin of a guy. Then we broke up the next day (Wednesday as I had said before).😩😩😩

I may tolerate thoughts of being cheated on (that is if I don’t have proof of course). But not in a situation where I trick you into confessing. 😵😵😵

Yes I know…you didn’t mean to…
Yes I know…the fact that you cheated does not mean that you don’t love me…
Yes I know…you admit that I deserve better and you are a jerk then you start being sad…
Yes I know…you need me to forgive you because you are willing to tell me all I need to know and give me all your passwords to wherever…💆💆💆

But damn…you know you are 100℅ right… I DESERVE MORE THAN BETTER!💁💁💁

I cried… I mourned…but not any more…
You have hurt me in a couple of ways before but sometimes maybe I was being too hard on you because no matter what…you always came back begging.👿👿👿

Now a week down, it hurts less.
I remember the situation sometimes (like now) but it really only hurts a little (and that is only once in a while). I won’t lie that it can all go away in the next second…but now more than ever, I would like to believe that time heals all wounds and that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.🤗👻👻👻

This has only taught me how to be more calm and collected in all my future relationships (and I am sure that I will find more respect on the way).😍😍😍

But take note dustbin guy…




A friend once told me that I only blog when I am hurt. At that particular point I agreed with him(he is right by the way).
I do not know really why this is true but I guess really, every writer has an inspiration.
As for me…I just feel like writing when I am hurt and low because simply, that is when I usually feel alone and it is the time when I feel like I should share my ideas with more than just the people in my environment.
But anyway that is part of me and what more is there to wish for…than for all the hurt to go away?



I love the attention.
I love the kisses.
I love the ice cream.
I love to be touched in a certain way.
I love to be carried around.
I love to be protected.
I love swimming.
I love gifts.
I love going on dates.
I love the hugs.
I love Chris Brown’s music.
I love black, silver and grey.
I love HipHop.
I love being classy, neat and clean.
I love growing up.
I love the respect.




I just love it when a guy I like starts acting all different. Don’t get me wrong though, I’m talking about when he is playing those mean games…you know…he really doesn’t mean it but wants to get a reaction out of you…

Liking boys is not part of the problem, on the contrary, the problem only gets to be there when he thinks he can get away with being mean.

As per my current knowledge on making a selfish guy suffer, I proudly know that I can give advice.


I know…it really is tempting to text back a lot of times even after he ignores. You really wana send that millionth text just to say , “hey babe, I just wanted to know if you saw the one hundred texts I sent before this…”
Then even after that one, you still see those blue ticks.

It really hurts especially when you know you did nothing wrong or especially if you know that to him it is a habit.


Nobody likes a clingy person, the more you keep calling and texting even after you are ignored…you become too frequent and he gets so sure that even though he is insulting your heart and your feelings, you’ll still hang around desperately.


It will definitely require you to be the strong species here if you want to crash that mean ego that is being portrayed.
Come on girl, cancel on a few dates, make your own false plans, start expanding your social circle and embrace your worth.
Trust me, guys are also jealous beings…the sooner you start hanging out with other people especially guy friends, they start marking their territory.
Haha! Then you’ll start hearing his hoarse voice shouting, “hey dude what’s up? That’s my babe!”


You’ll get happy and probably start smiling again, now won’t you? Those would be positive results.
But there has to be a sacrifice, especially if you know that a guy has some kind of affection towards you, even if it hasn’t gotten to love yet.

If at this point you are the only one texting and calling. STOP!
Leave him alone for a few days and you’ll see just how much more emotional he can get! Trust me, he’ll get way more emotional than you. Frustrate him until he gets desperate and shows it openly to you. It’s really so hard to stop the communication but you have to if you want that full love and attention in the end.
He probably is being a jerk and wants to get a reaction out of you by hurting your feelings.
Most of the times, boys like to come out as less emotional and less attached. Give him those missed calls and you definitely need to grant him those blue ticks.


Trust me girl, men love a challenge. At first, they’ll do every thing to win you over, but once they have you, you’ll have to try and fit in his list of priorities.

To avoid all this, you have to always keep him on his toes! Never be totally available, cancel on him once in a while and make your own plans, whether real or fake. Guys get attracted to independent ladies.


Stop the calls and texts and wait for him to come to you! No matter how hard it really is. Trust me if he feels something for you, it should take a minimum of 2 days and a maximum of a week to get him panting back. It could take more time depending on his ego and the nature of your relationship. Avoid the stalking disease and keep yourself busy. Sit back, relax and wait for your positive results. When he gets back to you, leave him hanging and make suffer just to realize your worth. Give him the silent treatment for days or even few weeks. Make him sweat for you. Don’t ever send more than a text before he replies. Let him do most of the reaching out and communicating. He will always be on his toes and feel like he needs to always chase you. Let that phone ring for a while. Respond with the one word phrases and be the first one to want to hang up because you say you need to go. Ignore some texts even when still online. He’ll always be interested and bothered about what else you might be doing.


For you guys out there, oops! Change the story the other way around and you could also get positive results.





Thanks guys I’m deeply humbled. My first 100 followers! Whoo-hoo!
I really think it’s a big deal to me because I have come to realize that WordPress followers might just be the hardest to get…something like twitter! Haha!
OK…that’s according to me though.

I’ve gotten 100 followers in less than a week. Very nice comments from all of you. Those likes that are coming along are a good motivator too.

It’s super fun to see someone that I consider super cool telling me I’m super cool!
All the people I follow are pretty awesome to me and for them to appreciate what I do…I’m deeply motivated. This is such an awesome and learned family.
Please tell your friends to tell their friends. I wouldn’t have made it this far without all of you.
You guys make me feel like I’ve been doing this forever.


Many thanks and many kisses.




I’ma hit somebody!
I really swear i’ma hit somebody!
If somebody tryna act like he more worthy than my feelings…I’ma hit somebody!

I really hate some type of people. I’m on the same side with anyone who has ever been heartbroken through a relationship without actually earning it.
So someone thinks it’s okay to lie to an innocent other about the fake feelings they have? I really swear I’ma hit somebody!

The worst type of Heartbreakers is the type that acts all nice, uses you then hurts you without even alerting you or giving reason…then they try to come back later when you trying to move on! Damn I really will finally hit somebody!
Look dude, You need to chill! Were you there when I was literally crying myself to sleep every night?
Were you there when I was tryna find someone to talk to every moment just cause of the way you made me feel? Were you there when I tried to call you to find out what I did wrong? I mean dude come on I was willing to take blame… When in real sense I didn’t know what for! Were you there when I always tried to distract myself from thinking about you every single moment? Wait dude, where your behind was at when I tried to fix this. You pushed me away…someone hold me, I’ma hit somebody!

Now you seeing that I started ignoring you and you noticing the distance. So now you tryna text me a lot dude. Now you tryna leave me lots of missed calls.
Where your behind was at when I needed all that attention from you?
You just tryna pull me back then hurt me even more! Tryna take a Range Rover just to run over my little fragile heart? I swear damn….I’ma hit somebody!

There are just some people who think they got the right to use people and dump them as soon as they get tired. Give no explanations, you just have to read in between the lines and skip to the next paragraph. Be careful of such people who treat you so bad and never even do anything special for you, they’ll kill you slowly and you’ll end up taking blame even in their place. At this point, I’d rather wait for marriage or forget about love completely! But I will never act desperate where I have no value. What do you get from a useless person who can’t even go out of their way to please you? Even when you treat the relationship seriously, they just feel like they deserve better than you. In real sense, you deserve better than them.

Walk out of such relationships and keep safe by NEVER going back to licking your vomit!

The situation can be two ways: a guy trying to treat you bad or a female doing the same. Don’t condone it especially since you deserve better. Keep those tears for that partner who will make you happy enough to shed tears of joy.
No guy should treat me bad and try to come back after I’m trying to move on.

Go on and take a bow!